The Importance of being Imperfect
Hey Queen..
Do you recognize this thinking:
In order to have sex (solo or with your partner) I need to feel spontaneously turned on and horny, the mood has to be just right, there can’t be any emotional tension (internally with myself or externally between my partner and I), the temperature must be ideal, the lighting ambient. I must not feel hungry or too full. I expect myself to get wet immediately otherwise it’s a failure and it won’t work. And if all of these things align and are just the way I need them to be, I must feel lots of pleasure and easily have an orgasm.
OMG. The pressure. 😱
And yes, I’m exaggerating a little, maybe you don’t think ALL those things and only a few of them. Or maybe you DO think all of them.
Either way. I invite you to laugh at this silly mind game. Your brain is literally playing tricks on you to keep you from enjoying a wonderfully imperfect sexual encounter with yourself or a lover.
See, in order to have amazing experiences, experience lots of pleasure and have the best orgasms of your life, you have to be willing to have not so amazing experiences, experience low levels of pleasure sometimes, and have “meh” orgasms and also experience the absence of orgasms.
Because requiring perfect conditions in order to even start the sex/self-pleasure and then expect the perfect experience - is simply quite an awful lot of pressure to put on your poor body and pussy and a guaranteed way to stay stuck.
Your body doesn’t need all that pressure.
It needs to feel like it’s okay to be imperfect.
And if you give yourself permission to have those less than ideal experiences, then I bet you, your body and pussy and gonna reward with you the most surprising mind-blowing pleasure and orgasms when you least expect it.
So, I ask you:
What would it look like to welcome imperfection into your sexual life?
Feel free to send me a message and share your thoughts with me. I read and respond to every email.
To being imperfect (and fabulous!)!!
